I know what you’re thinking!
“Andrea, it’s been FOREVER! Where have you been?!?”
Well, I started… mommy life! That’s right! You read that correctly! I joined the Mommy Club in October, and now I have a beautiful baby boy!
When I found out that I was pregnant in February, I couldn’t have imagined that I would be experiencing a high risk pregnancy. By the time I was 5 months pregnant, I looked like I was full term with twins. This was due to the massive fibroid I was carrying which was sitting at the top of my stomach, right above the baby. Originally, my desire was for a home birth. Instead of a doctor, I started out with midwives wanting to have the most natural care possible. But by the time I was 6 months pregnant, I was referred to a doctor who works with high risk pregnancies. Upon his recommendation, I was referred to a specialist group and started having my follow-up appointments at the hospital. Many doctors in the Obstertix group doubted that my baby would make it to full term because not only was he measuring small in the womb, but I was found to be anemic. I ended up having 5 iron infusions before my scheduled delivery and 2 blood transfusions the day before surgery. In addition, my doctor ordered 4 units of blood for the surgery due to the risk of hemorrhaging. A special surgeon was scheduled for the cesarean due to the size of the fibroid… just in case I also needed a hysterectomy due to delivering the baby in a way that they couldn’t repair my womb. It was the first time I had ever experienced surgery.
On October 1st, my son joined the Msando family! He weighed 5 pounds 2.5 ounces and measured 21 inches long! I am so thankful to God that I had such a great experience at the hospital among all the things that could have gone wrong. It took 2 surgeons to lift the fibroid I had been carrying all pregnancy long. Yep, it was that big! By the time I was 9 months, my stomach was equivalent to a pregnancy with quintuplets.
I was not prepared for how often people would make remarks about my size. Comments from friends, family, and strangers ranged from sweet and caring to just plain rude! Since it was a sensitive time for me, I chose to stay off of all of my social media platforms. I didn’t even take many pregnancy pictures because I felt so embarrassed about my size. I knew the fibroid I was carrying was clearly a result of heredity as well as poor physical and mental health I had accumulated throughout prior years. I just wasn’t ready to come to terms with that being a part of my story… especially when I’ve spent the last 10 years learning, practicing, and preaching the pillars of good health and wellness!
Pregnancy gave me a lot of time to rest and reflect. I had to come to grips with the fact that I was not healthy enough to have my baby naturally, and that I might possibly lose my womb to a hysterectomy after my first child. It was a time of simultaneous joy and sorrow.
Having major abdominal surgery as a part of my c section has humbled me in so many ways. Before I experienced surgery for myself, I’ll admit there was an sense of pride in not having gone through some of the aliments others have gone through in being admitted to the hospital. So naturally, it’s possible that certain inconsiderations and misconceptions crept through my advice when discussing topics of health and wellness with others. I meant well, but me not having gone through something major myself, I’m sure there were times when I came across differently than intended.
But it’s amazing how fast an experience can make us grow and shift our thinking. Now that I’m on the other side of surgery, I find that I have a new normal once again. I have my life! I have a beautiful, healthy baby boy! And I have gained wisdom and a greater sense of compassion for others as a result of what I went through 3 months ago. I understand that even though I wanted to deal with my fibroid in a natural way, it had become too large of a problem to fix naturally and it needed to be surgically removed in order for me and my son to be alive today!
Once again my new normal has brought me closer to having 2020 vision. I will always be a fan of doing things the natural way because I believe God has given mankind some amazing ways to help our bodies powerfully. Only, now I can promote these ways more humbly and with the understanding that there are just some things in the body that need man-made intervention… and God has provided that too. And I’m okay with that. My son and I are alive because of the people who specialize in man-made interventions! And even though it took 8 weeks for my body to heal physically from surgery, I’m still utilizing natural ways like relaxation and essential oils to heal emotionally from the stress of what I went through.
My 2020 vision includes an appreciation of my past, a hope for the future, and compassion for others in humility. It also includes my amazing husband and my beautiful son! 2020 is going to be a year full of clearer vision!
This is my story. My new normal for 2020! My vision, my passion… my life!