“Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”
-1 Peter 3:3-4
I believe that this scripture is speaking both spiritually and physically. Beauty radiates from my body because I adorn myself on the inside! It took me a long time to grasp this concept, but now I understand it from a biblical and practical perspective.
God made us beautiful, and I for one, want to be a good steward of the beauty He has so richly blessed me with!
Before I began my health journey, I didn’t know that I was beautiful. I didn’t have a high self-esteem, and I didn’t feel confident. I preferred climbing trees to playing with Barbie dolls, I was the second fastest runner in my class, I wore over-sized clothing and didn’t mind getting dirty. My closet was a mono colored spectrum of black and neutral colors. Fashion was an absolute foreign concept to me; I didn’t mind the look as long as I was comfortable even if it meant buying the same shirt in multiple color options: brown, black, and gray to be exact! I focused highly on my academics, and I didn’t have a big circle of friends. Overall, I just felt awkward but found comfort between the covers of a good book.
My year-long detox journey of no meat started resulting in pounds and pounds of weight loss, and as I was melting out of my clothes, everything changed. All of a sudden, I was able to walk with my head held a little higher because the weight was being lifted. It took time for my mindset to catch up to my body because after all, I was the odd ball. I never fit in. I wasn’t the girly girl. I didn’t wear makeup. I didn’t care! But people started noticing the changes in me, and that was my first glimpse of freedom! My sister Kim came to my rescue; there’s always a fashion guru in the family, and God placed her smack dab in ours. I quickly became my sister’s blank canvas. Just maybe there was hope for me yet…
Kim is literally a fashion genius. She possess an uncanny gift of color memory. She can tell you over the phone if the picture of those socks you took at the mall will match the color of that belt in your closet!
I hired her to be my personal shopper, and together we pioneered the fashion frontier.
Kim taught me so much about which clothes flattered my body shape best, that quality and stitching details matter, and that there’s room at the fashion table for everyone, even me. We combed through shoes, left no accessory unturned, and pilgrimaged to every outlet! Shopping experiences that used to take me fifteen to twenty minutes before turned into hours of fitting rooms and mirrors. My mindset slowly started coming around; I was beginning to have fun and enjoy the process!
At the same time I was learning about clothing, I was also learning about natural hair care and dabbling into skin care and makeup. I was being transformed into a whole new me, and it was beautiful! By the time Kim got married, I was more confident, more polished in my fashion sense, and felt successful overall. Pretty soon I was finding cute clothes and accessories that was impressing my sister!
The other day I found a picture of the way I used to look. Tears came to my eyes as I examined the picture because I am no longer that person. I remember the way that person used to dress. I remember the way that person used to feel and talk and wish she could be somebody else, and she changed. She transformed from a lowly caterpillar into a beautiful butterfly riding the winds of life. Y’all, this is my new normal.
Curious to see a picture of how I used to look? Click here!
If you would like to meet my talented sister Kim and check out more of her unique style, click here!